Question, can we have a honest discussion about words? Can we discuss how words can literally make or break someone; and I’m not just talking about their day, but it can affect their reality.
Over the last few weeks I’ve read articles about young people taking their lives due to school bullying and, I know kids can be terrible hell creatures if left unchecked, but I wonder about the words those young people were getting or not getting from their homes – the original support system, or maybe the lack thereof. I think about how adults dismiss young people’s realities and pain, or worst, try to compare their adult hardship to the youth and in doing so dismiss the youth’s reality altogether. That type of rejection is painful and many people do not recover from it.
Then today, as I was waiting for the bus, I felt myself grappling with my level of discontent for life. I don’t believe in Monday morning blues or situational depression, I’m of the thought, that if I’m blue or sad and it keeps occurring then something is wrong and I need to self-check to find out. So, today I self-checked as I was on the bus and, I discovered the reason why I was frustrated and discontented because I allowed negative thinking to proceed unchecked. The thoughts I labeled innocuous because I didn’t see any harm from their negativity since I agreed with them were actually killing my vibe and doing damage to my mental health in subtle ways. The thoughts in question, that said this job sucks; this life sucks; I should do more and be more, that I’m entitled to more, type of thoughts, were creating a heavy weight on me that was becoming noticeably heavy in my mind, that it was beginning to affect my actions, and that made me upset.
See, I was upset because controlling my thoughts and keeping a positive thought atmosphere is important to me and, I acknowledge the vitality of keeping a positive and healthy thought life to prevent depression. As I’ve become aware to the benefits of keeping a positive mind and the joy that comes with it, I have become less patient to entertaining negative thinking and situations. So I came to my tipping point where I needed to make changes because carrying the weight of depression because I was frustrated about things I didn’t have while actively sabotaging the things I have because I could not appreciate them, was the reality check I needed to bring myself back to myself to make the necessary mental changes to create the positive mental reality.
Gaining this skill has helped me to realize, that the energy through words that I put in the world matters, this includes thoughts and verbal words. And I think many people don’t understand that, and that’s why it’s easy for so many people to be violent and/or reckless with their words. Especially, when people hurl their words at people on the Internet.
Because at the end of the day words hurt and that pain can last a lifetime if left unresolved, while on the other hand, words can inspire and uplift, and this too can last a lifetime. What I’ve learned is, it’s up to the individual to put the work in to cultivate their headspace and reality, and it can be a lot of work and the work can be painful. In the same token, it’s up to us to create boundaries to protect ourselves from negative thoughts and people – and there’s nothing wrong with that. Because the work to achieve mental health, mental clarity and peace is a hard process and it’s not worth undoing by miserable people.